Anger Management System 10 Step Summary:

Step 1

Learn anger is a valuable warning signal of unfulfilled needs.

It says to stop and become aware of your unfulfilled needs and the feelings created by those unfulfilled needs.

Begin to look for result that would make your life more fulfilling, satisfying and wonderful.

Step 2

Learn to identify just the facts.

Step 3

You learn your feelings result from your needs being met or not being met and never from what another person does or doesn’t do.

Step 4

You take control of your thinking and focus your awareness on your feelings and needs.

Step 5

You experience more personal power, contentment and ease as you get in touch with your needs and realize you can take positive actions to get your needs met.

Steps 6 and 7

You determine and identify positive actions that will meet your needs right now.

Step 8

Your awareness moves to others involved.

Before talking to them, you guess what the other person feels and needs.

You identify actions which might contribute to his or her needs being met.

Step 9

Chose who you would like to speak first with the knowingness you can continue talking until all needs are met through actions everyone is in agreement with and willing to take.

Step 10

Now it’s time to talk.

You put the steps into action communicating your observations, feelings, needs and requests and receiving the other person’s observations, feelings, needs and requests.

You stay focused on making clear requests and how you feel about what is being requested of you.

As you listen to the request, if you feel good, you might consider agreeing to the request.

If you feel bad, you might consider say no to the request and working towards a request you feel good about agreeing to.

You continue until everyone’s needs are met through actions everyone feels good about and agrees to take.

Will this work even with difficult, unreasonable and angry people? It has resolved wars, solved corporate battles, mended families and much more.