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Success: Key to Success is Self Confidence and Overcoming Inferiority Complex
Let me tell you a brief story. By the time you finish reading this quick article, you will see the key to success.
An inferiority complex, feeling not good enough, leads to less than desirable results, even failure.
I asked a doctor the characteristics of an inferiority complex. She said, "Symptoms can be attacking others, speaking negatively, propagating gossip and doing damage to self. A large number of people, who look like they have self confidence, suffer from the inferiority complex."
The key to success is to overcome the inferiority complex, either your own or someone else's.
After speaking to a convention of men and women in a large city, I moved from stage to an area of the auditorium near a sign saying, "Lori Prokop Book Signing."
At the autograph table I was greeted by a large number of people and signed books when a visibly intense man asked, "Excuse me. Lori Prokop, may I speak with you privately about self confidence and dealing with an inferiority complex?"
I answered, "Yes. Can you wait until the crowd has gone?"
With relief, he politely answered, "Yes, Lori Prokop, I would like that very much."
Once back stage, he began, "I need all the self confidence I can find. I have to achieve the biggest business deal of my life. Lori Prokop, if I have success, it means the world to me. If I fail, I'm done for."
I proposed he relax. Few situations or deals are so final, although they may feel to be the only key to success. An important step is to know if he did succeed that was fine. If he didn't succeed, there would be other days and deals. This is the beginning of overcoming an inferiority complex and achieving self confidence.
He continued, "I have a real inferiority complex. I just don't have the self confidence I want. Here I am forty-five years old. I've been plagued by my inferiority complex. Lori Prokop, I listened to your speech tonight about self confidence. I want to know the key to success you, Lori Prokop, would recommend to help me achieve self confidence."
"There are three steps to take," I answered.
"First step is to discover why you have these feelings. I have a free report at my web site that reveals the 12 Rules of Abuse, which are beliefs people learned as children that keep them from achieving what they want as adults.
"You must approach the inferiority complex and self confidence problems looking for a cause and removing it. This may require self-analysis or assistance of a counselor or therapist.
"To help you and be of assistance now with your immediate problem, I will give you my own Lori Prokop formula which works for me. Starting today, I want you to repeat this powerful phrase I will give you. Tomorrow, I want you to say it throughout the day. Do you agree?"
He replied, "Yes, Lori Prokop, I agree."
I said, "Here is the Lori Prokop Formula."
"I am free of worry about how to figure things out. God does that for me. Together, as partners, God and I achieve success in everything, whether overcoming obstacles or going straight to the top."
I continued, "You can substitute words for what God is to you. The main message here is that you are not alone. Your Life Partner is powerful and on your side always."
What do you think? Click on the Questions And Comments link and let us know.
Posted by Lori Prokop
Comments
As a survivor of torture beyond words, one has found a million blessing with in them all. I have also found your knowledge to be of superior intelligence.
Lori, I would like to thank you for changing my perception from negative to positive. You have been blessed with the power of understanding the heart, mind and soul. Most importantly, I think God is proud of you!
Posted by: Lisa Joseph at July 1, 2007 12:39 PM
Dear Lori:
Thank you for this site!! I have dealt with the "verbal beatings" all of my life! I've been told that I am worthless with anything that I do and I will never make anything "worth while" in my life. I can now say that I am 40 and FREE! I am finally finding God as my undersatnding! I am still hard on myself, but I am learning to turn things over to my Higher Power!
I am now geting the great satisfaction of volunteering and making a difference for other people, which in turn makes me feel like I am "worthy" and that God is by my side helping me every day!
Posted by: Kelly at March 29, 2007 6:02 AM
I really needed this article today.
Thanks Lori
Shelly
Posted by: Shelly at March 1, 2007 1:53 PM
hi.
wheneve i'm in a public place where people are wearing expensive clothes or
in presentation before girls or
buys with whom i have not understanding or
i always unable to do things even i'm sure i can do things.
Posted by: Saeed Sarwar at March 1, 2007 2:27 AM
is it possible to overcome inferiorty complex.
what practical steps should a person take to
to get rid of it.
Posted by: sumit at November 16, 2006 3:23 AM
Thanks for remembering me always.Your advise is a comfort and is really torching my life but iam believing in few time period, i will be over with it. I will keep in contact now and always. Thanks and be greatly blessed.
Posted by: Adoyi Innocent at July 28, 2006 7:50 AM
Lori,
I have always had an inferiority complex & still do to some degree. I need someone else to break the ice & then I'm OK. I couldn't even get up in front of 3 or 4 people without stuttering, etc. I have been well known in the Civil War collecting field, but still couldn't speak in front of others. Finally I did my own book which has been an instant resounding success. As soon as I realized this something changed & now I can talk in front of 2 or 2000 & it makes no difference. I'm relaxed & confident. But I still have to have an ice breaker to start a conversational situation --- maybe just a question posed to me or maybe no more than an introduction. Charlie Harris
Posted by: Charles Harris at June 12, 2006 10:38 AM
Dear Lori
Words cannot express how you have changed my life!
I will be buying your DVD's for all my friends.
I love you Lori Prokop
Posted by: Steve at June 5, 2006 8:30 AM
Dear Linda,
Thank you for your love and support. You are certainly a Light of Love and a genious creative being. I am here for you anytime you would like to blog.
Blessings of Love and Light,
Lori Prokop
Posted by: Lori Prokop at March 23, 2006 5:08 PM
Dear Mariette,
Blessings to you of Love and Light. I have written a new prayer of forgiveness and release. I call it the "Miracle Prayer." Here it is for your use, if you desire.
The Miracle Prayer
Beingness of 100% Pure Light and Love in heaven
A true reflection of Who I Am
Thy kingdom come
Thy will be done
Inside my heart, mind and being
Thank you for all my days in direction communication with 100% Pure Light and Love
I forgive and release myself for trespasses and judgments against myself.
I forgive and release myself for trespasses and judgments against others.
I forgive and release others for trespasses and judgments against me.
I deeply and completely love and accept all of who I Am.
I make all my choices from 100% Pure Light and Love.
Thank you for delivering me from my dark level thoughts and emotions.
Thank you for leading me to the 100% Pure Light and Love that I Am.
For it is the Beingness of 100% Pure Light and Love that is the Kingdom, the Power and the Glory now and forever.
So it is.
Posted by: Lori Prokop at March 23, 2006 5:06 PM
My father, who was always good to me, favored my brother. No matter how well I did in school or otherwise, it was never important. My brother was lauded for any little thing he did. As I think back (I'm 66) I realize that it made me feel that I was never good enough. I married a man who criticized me and put me down in front of people. He was nicer to me when we were alone. I have a very good relationship with my brother, but I did divorce my husband 24 years ago and have remained single since. I feel I'm very intelligent and a good person (with some shortcomings) who has never achieved my potential. I successfully raised 4 children but that is where it stops. I am working on the Power Points and affirmations every day which is helping me release anger and frustration. I enjoyed your seminar very much.
Posted by: Mariette at March 9, 2006 12:47 PM
Your work is good. We as children were given lots of mixed messages. One that sticks in mind as a visually handicapped my mother said I was to independant for my one good. I told her that it was my responsibility to do as much for mysels as there was plenty of room for earas that I really do need help in. Keep the good work up.
Posted by: Linda at February 20, 2006 5:31 PM
