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February 27, 2006 07:28 PM

“What Inside of You Hurts So Bad You Think by Hurting Me You Will Feel Better?”

Here is a question that was posted on my "How to Heal Abuse" Blog.

At work, I have people who are saying things that are not true. They are very mean. I like my job well enough and get paid pretty good money. So I don’t want to leave the job, especially because of these people. I do a good job. But it’s getting really hard to put up with these people saying bad and untruthful things. What can I do? I don’t want to stoop to their level. But it appears that is the only way to stop it.

Posted By Sue

My Reply...

Everyone has times when others attack, blame, shame or guilt. What can be done? Can it be stopped without sinking to their lower energy levels?

Yes. You can overcome and dissolve the situation by staying in the upper energy levels of your Life Guidance System. I’ll tell you how. But first I want to share a few quick stories to let you know that you are not alone.

Did you know that Mother Theresa had people who did the same to her? Yes, saintly Mother Theresa had people who wanted her harmed and jailed.

Why?

Because they felt her work highlighted the poverty in Calcutta and gave the area a "bad name." They felt she was doing more harm than good by bringing awareness, resources and love to dying, homeless people. Mother Theresa was threatened with physical harm and jail. As much as she was loved by millions, she was also the target of the harmful intent and hurtful lies of some.

What did Mother Theresa do?

Notice what she didn’t do. She didn’t attack her attackers. Instead, she continued her mission of love and charity concentrating on what she wanted. Eventually as people watched the love come from Mother Theresa and the venom come from her attackers, it was obvious her attackers were foolish, hurtful people living in and acting from the lower energy levels of their Life Guidance System.

In my area we have a Chinese restaurant. A young man named Andy used to work there. He and I developed a friendship. He taught me a bit of Chinese. I helped him with a bit of English.

Christmas was approaching. I asked Andy about the holiday and religious beliefs of his family in China and if they believed in God. He said they did not believe in God. So I asked if they believed in Buddha. He said, "No, no. Buddha no good. Dalai Lama no good. Dalai Lama evil and bad."

Now I just about laughed out loud in amazement at this. But instead, I asked, "Why? Why is the Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy looked puzzled. I could see his mind trying to come up with an answer. He tried to stall with a smile. Again, I asked, "Why is Dalai Lama no good?"

Andy finally said, "Because Chinese government says he no good."

I asked, "Why? Why do they say he no good?"

Andy stared at me. He swallowed hard and struggled with a smile. Finally through his smile, Andy said, "I do not know."

Here is a young Chinese man that for no rational, intelligent or truthful reason had contempt and hate towards the Dalai Lama, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize.

How did it happen? Someone speaking from the lower energy levels told Andy that the Dalai Lama was a bad person, a scammer and evil. Andy picked up on the lower energy levels. He believed it until I asked him specifically why.

So what can you do about people who verbally attack you?

One of the first questions I ask people who are projecting attack is: "What inside of you hurts so bad that you think by hurting me you will feel better?"

Every action people take is about helping themselves feel better, whether it is helping or hurting another.

The action any person takes depends on where they are living in their Life Guidance System. How can you see where a person is living and creating from? Look at their actions.

If they are attacking another or participating in a war on another, they are living and creating from the lowest levels of their Life Guidance System such as fear, anger and revenge.

To blame and judge is still a very low energy, but a higher energy level than fear, depression and guilt.

If you find a person attacking another, you know inside the attacker is a very scared, low energy being.

Attacking another may look strong but it is really a very, very weak position and action. For the attacker, it creates 70% of what they DON’T want and only 30% of what they want. (For more details on this get the Free Special Report that contains the Life Guidance System by clicking here.)

Is a person is difficult to be around? Is he hard to have on your team? Is he sabotaging self or others? This type of person is also living in the lower levels of his Life Guidance System, such as guilt, shame and doubt.

Is she a joy to be around? Does she seems to solve problems effortlessly? Is she helping and encouraging others? This type of person is living from the upper levels of their Life Guidance System, such as contentment, positive knowingness and thankfulness.

To the world, represent yourself and live from the upper level emotions of your Life Guidance System.

Look at the rewards of doing this.

When you are living at contentment and ease, you are creating and manifesting 75% of what you DO want in your life and only 25% of what you don’t want. Pretty much everyone can enjoy life at this level.

A great step is to look at the Life Guidance System chart. Decide how good you want life to feel. Decide how much of “what you want” you want in your life. If you are content with 80% of life going your way, then focus on living and being at the energetic level that will manifest such.

What about people who are attacking others? Give them as little attention as possible. But, represent yourself as who you truly are. Attacks by others can make you stronger. The question is “stronger what?”

This is where you have control.

You make the decision what energetic level you will master. Are you going to master “revenge?” It may feel better than fear because it is higher in your Life Guidance System. But it will create 75% of what you DON’T want.

Is this what you want in your life?

Or would you rather invest this time of focus and strengthening to achieve an energetic level of contentment and ease (creating 75% of what you DO want)?

Or positive belief which greats 85% of what you DO want?

Or even gratitude and love which creates 100% of what you DO want?

Pick up the Life Guidance System which is absolutely free in the special report and decide, right now, what you want your life to be.

Blessings of Love and Light.

Lori

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End Your Fear of Failure

It is dangerous to have your own fears working against you, especially the fear of failure or success. Either can cause you to freeze and create the situation you fear, even causing failure to thrive.

Everyone is going to fall short or experience failure. The important question is not “did you experience failure?” Rather the important question is “how did you react to the failure?”

Coming up short of a desired outcome can be a great teacher. Much of what people have learned, which has been the key to success, has come from overcoming adversity. Mistakes help us discover hownot to do a thing. Success is also a great teacher, showing us how to do a thing.

It is important to see success and failure equal in terms of the lessons both bring.

I was being interviewed as an expert for a book on success. The author asked, “Lori, how do great leaders handle success?”

I replied, “Great leaders are not as devastated by failure or as elated by successes. They take both in stride knowing they will continue to experience both as they move forward. They are more excited by the insights and knowledge they master as a result of both success and failure.”

Great accomplishments can launch from failure. But if you stop because of failure, you will experience that failure forever.

When you experience failure, and you will, step back and in a non-judgmental manner take a good look at it.

I recommend the words of a great mentor of mine, Ted Nicholas, when he advised me, “Lori, say these incredibly powerful words, ‘I forgive myself and others for mistakes of the past.’”

I also suggest to you what another great teacher said, “Lori, you cannot look rationally at the equation or steps which lead to any outcome until you have healed the negative or hurtful emotions attached.”

As you are healing regarding the outcome, ask yourself why this path failed. When you have forgiven yourself and others for mistakes of the past (even if the past is just moments ago), you can look at the situation wiser, more competent and with the sense that failure is only temporary and success is inevitable.

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February 26, 2006 01:38 PM

5 Ways to Create a Happy Family

You might disagree and say, “Lori Prokop what are you writing now?” But hear me out on this.

I believe finding happiness and success are more than just money.

If you are not finding happiness in your family, this is to remind you that you have the power to improve your life within your family.

Here are my Lori Prokop 5 ways to create (or re-create) a happy family:

1) Start with yourself. Finding happiness starts by deciding that you will create the loving spirit that can create a happy family. Develop an energy and personality where simply your spirit and presence will heal others and rejuvenate your family.

2) Look at yourself. Ask yourself this question and give yourself a true answer: “Am I contributing to family happiness or unhappiness?

3) Heal within any feelings of mistrust or anger. This can seem to be an impossible task. But it is achievable and vital to finding happiness and success.

People make mistakes. Some make them only once. Others repeat their mistakes over and over. Each person is doing the best they can at the emotional intelligence level they have achieved.

If someone is being hurtful, blameful, angry or attacking, they are living at a very low emotional intelligence level. That doesn’t mean you need to live in this painful place with them.

Practice treating everyone in the family with love. You may not be able to be around them because of their chosen personality or behaviors. You can pray, intend or send loving energy to them. They will receive it and the power of love will heal them in remarkable ways, often better than we could have dreamed.

4) Choose to live in the upper six levels of your Life Guidance System. You have 21 emotional levels. Fifteen create what you don’t want and six emotional levels create what you do want. People ask me, “Lori, how can I live in the emotional levels that create more of what I want and result in finding happiness?”

Don’t be a part of family problems. Heal yourself and become a cure. Don’t tell your family you have chosen to do this. Just do it. They will notice the difference. Your newly chosen emotional levels will create positive results. With your lead and example, your family members can learn to love and respect each other.

5) Encourage high regard for each other. Teach, by example, that each family member accepts all others and lets each be who they are.

With some wisdom and insight, it is easy to see how people’s personalities have developed. Even if you are repulsed by someone, it is possible to see why they act as they do.

When the development process and history of their personalities is respected, even the most difficult people lighten up. When people feel understood, they no longer feel the need to defend. Love and acceptance of each person’s history will create the feeling of goodwill and real understanding.

So here is what I believe. Ultimately, you can change even the toughest family situation for the better. You can help family member experience success and help yourself in the process of finding happiness.

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3 Instant Strategies to Overcome Fear and Achieve Happiness and Peace of Mind

Once you know these three strategies, fear melts away. Let me illustrate the three secrets with a quick story. Then, I'll give you them to you

I spent time in the Midwest where an old livestock farmer said to me, "Lori, I've learned my greatest life lesson from Hereford cows."

I thought that was a bit unusual. After all, I've spoken to many great people who have shared many incredible life lessons. What could we learn from cows?

Well, I was shocked and grateful.

On cattle ranches, the freezing rain, bitter winds and extreme temperatures of winter storms can wipe out entire herds. Flying ice can even cut into flesh.

Facing this dangerous enemy, most cattle turn their backs and slowly drift downwind until they find another obstacle which stops them. Be it a river, fence or something, they pile up against the obstacle and die in large numbers.

But Herefords intuitively stand shoulder-to-shoulder facing the icy storms with their heads down against the bitter blasts.

The farmer told me, “Well, Lori, you almost always find the Herefords alive and well. It is the greatest lesson from the open range. Just face life’s storms.”

When a person stands up to a challenge or fear that challenge or fear tends to fold and give way. People with courageous persistence win.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”

Do not attempt to ignore what you fear and go drifting with the wind. Every person must decide over and over whether to deal with fearful situations or to run away.

Most fears are unfounded and empty. A successful businessman in his 60’s calculated that only about 8 percent of what he feared had happened. He looked back on his life saying that 92 percent of what he feared never came to be.

Of the 8 percent of fears that did occur, he said, “Lori, I just stood up to them with persistence. It was my persistence that overcame them. All fears are controllable.”

Here are three strategies to overcome fear and achieve happiness and peace of mind.

Lori Prokop Happiness and Peace of Mind Strategy #1

Be a person of persistent faith. Most importantly, say morning, noon and night, “I will not be motivated or dominated by fear or anxiety any more. I remove fear and anxiety from my mind. I now decide my fear and anxiety will be brought under control and eliminated. I am a person of persistence and faith.”

In addition to this statement, you will need to choose matching thoughts and actions. This statement will program your mind to remove and reject fear-based thoughts.

Lori Prokop Happiness and Peace of Mind Strategy #2

Work on fears one at a time. With a pen and piece of paper, write out all the fears you have. Make as complete and honest a list as possible. Look over your list and determine the fear that disturbs you the most. Decide to resolve that fear alone, first.

Most people’s strength, energy and persistence are powerful enough to resolve one fear at a time. Resolving all fears or multiple fears at one time can be more than a person could energetically handle.

When you overcome one fear and then the next, you will experience an increased sense of accomplishment, confidence and personal power you can use to defeat all the fears on your list.

Lori Prokop Happiness and Peace of Mind Strategy #3

Increase your faith and persistence power. Faith and persistence can be the result of a long-practiced mental and spiritual process.

Often, those who need faith and persistence the most need it now. They don’t have time for years of spiritual development. To develop faith and persistence quickly and powerfully, I suggest learning and mastering your inner Life Guidance System.

What is your Life Guidance System?

It is a chart of 21 emotional levels which each person uses, with or without awareness, to create and react to situations in his or her life.

At the bottom of the chart is fear which creates 1% of what you do want and 99% of what you don’t want. In the middle of the chart is anger which creates 30% of what you do want and 70% of what you don’t want.

A little higher is contentment which creates 75% of what you do want and 25% of what you don’t want. At the top of your inner Life Guidance System is love and gratitude which manifests 100% of what you do want and 0% of what you don’t want.

You create your life experiences from your chosen emotional levels. As you choose higher and higher emotions, you will be amazed how much easier, more peaceful and more successful your life becomes.

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February 24, 2006 03:29 AM

Child Abuse: 11 Things You Must Know to Heal

By Shelly Horvath

No problem is too great to solve, even the pain of child abuse, emotional abuse and drug abuse.

These 11 steps from John Bradshaw, Lori Prokop and others will help you cope with and overcome hard times. Many of these steps I found from Lori Prokop founder of www.howtohealabuse.com. Looking at her own family, Lori Prokop discovered child abuse, emotional abuse and drug abuse was generational.

1) Acknowledge with help from your Higher Power of 100% pure light, you do have the strength, wisdom and abilities to resolve this difficulty, even if it requires what you view is a miracle. Miracles can happen.

2) Why me? Everyone in life faces challenges, difficulties and pain. Don’t feel you are singled out. Avoid asking, “Why me?” Put your energy into creating a solution, not justifying the problem.

3) Get rid of fear. Fear is the lowest emotional level according to your Life Guidance System discovered by Lori Prokop. What is your Life Guidance System?

Research by Lori Prokop shows you have 21 emotional levels. Six of those emotional levels create what you want in your life. Fifteen of those emotional levels create what you don’t.

I love free resources. I found the 21 emotional levels explained and the actual Life Guidance System chart developed by Lori Prokop in the free special report offered at the How to Heal Abuse web site. It’s clear to me Lori Prokop wants to help people. Even thought this Life Guidance System chart has great value and created immediate positive results for me, Lori Prokop gives it away free.

The Life Guidance System says fear manifests into 99% of what you do not want. Your fear works against you and works in the favor of those trying to hurt you. Your fear is their most powerful weapon. Always keep cool.

Choose to feel emotions from as high in your Life Guidance System as possible, preferably choosing until you reach the upper six levels.

4) Affirm and believe that with help from your Higher Power of 100% pure love you can deal with, resolve and overcome the difficulty. A good source for this is Dr. Norman Vincent Peale’s book, “The Power of Positive Thinking.”

5) Reason. Always use sound, reasonable thinking and include the help of other people who can do so. Many people who have overcome adversity to achieve great success say the key was having a team, mastermind or support group of capable, loving people. Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” wrote extensively on this subject. All 12 step groups are based on this principle.

6) Spiritual healing. In addition to help from people, seek spiritual healing and guidance from a source of 100% pure love. Some people say, “Let go and let God.”

At a workshop, John Bradshaw who wrote the book “Bradshaw On: The Family” said even with all the psychological healing people have done, there still exists a hole. That hole is spiritual healing. John Bradshaw says this often needs to be filled before complete healing is realized.

When it comes to spiritual healing, Lori Prokop says this doesn’t mean to never take action to resolve your difficulties. Rather, part of spiritual healing means to hand over your problems to your divine source seeking advice and guidance on what to do and not do for a solution that is the highest good for all involved.

Lori Prokop recommends saying multiple times a day, “I am free of worry about how to figure things out. God does that for me.” Then, Lori Prokop recommends giving thanks for the solution of 100% pure love before it even becomes evident to you.

7) Break the difficulty into manageable parts. Analyzing the large problem until you see it is actually comprised of small challenges is what Lori Prokop recommends.

Abuse can be comprised of more than one type. Lori Prokop gives the example that child abuse and emotional abuse are often caused by drug abuse. The abuser could be using drugs because they were victims of child abuse and emotional abuse. This is how the cycle perpetuates.

Lori advises that tackling the entire abuse issue all at once can be too much to resolve. But starting with an intervention for one of the abuses, such as the drug abuse, may start the healing process for the other abuses.

When you break apart the global problem into manageable parts you will find solutions, ideas and insights come to you.

8) One at a time. Once your difficulty is broken into smaller challenges, study your list to determine the easiest challenge to resolve. Resolve that one, then the next and another. In this manner, as you resolve challenge after challenge, you will gather the strength to beat the entire difficulty.

9) Persistence. Some challenges require time to resolve. Patience is a must.

10) Experience. Look for the educational value and wisdom you gain from the spiritual healing. This helps you resolve or avoid similar situations and keeps you from perpetuating the abuse onto someone else.

Lori Prokop believes great leaders and spiritual healers can develop themselves from personal experiences of child abuse, emotional abuse, drug abuse and other abusive situations. People who have been through the fire, so to speak, can help others because these leaders and healers know both what to do and what not to do.

11) Say. I saw versions of this powerful step from many greats such as Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, Lori Prokop, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra and many others.

Multiple times each day say aloud, “I know that my Higher Power and I can solve all problems together.”

Believe me. Once you start applying this information, your life will begin to change for the better.

Even though I wish there was no such thing as child abuse, drug abuse or emotional abuse, if it has happened to you will experience great peace and satisfaction from overcoming and healing it. To quote Lori Prokop, “As each difficulty in your life is solved you will become stronger, more educated and more capable. Life becomes better.”

Shelly Horvath writes about how to heal abuse and create what you want in life. She reads authors like Dr. Peale, John Bradshaw and Lori Prokop. Visit www.howtohealabuse.com for free resources. Click here for free Life Guidance System by Lori Prokop.

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February 23, 2006 11:01 PM

How to have No Fear and Achieve Peace of Mind

When was the last time you worried about something? Aren’t you sick and tired of it? Here’s a few real simple ways to have no fear and achieve peace of mind.

No Fear Tip #1:

Some people think fear is not normal. All people have fears. It is one of the emotions programmed into your Life Guidance System.

The question is not if you feel fear. The question is how quickly you can move through or past fear to achieve peace of mind.

No Fear Tip #2:

The lowest emotional level in your Life Guidance System is fear. It works against you to create 99% of what you do not want in your life.

Love and gratitude are the opposite of fear and the highest emotional level in your Life Guidance System. Feelings of love and gratitude can create 100% of what you do want in your life.

No Fear Tip #3:

Before giving in to your fears, look at them statistically. How often does what you fear ever happen?

No Fear Tip #4:

There are reasons for your fear. The latest brain research reveals adults feel and act in accordance to how their brains were programmed during childhood and adolescence. You may find your fears are irrational now.

No Fear Tip #5:

Get out a pen and paper and write down all the times in your life you have been taken care of, watched over or protected. Give thanks for all this guidance, love and protection. Affirm that it will always be this way.

No Fear Tip #6:

Focus on courage in your mind, your prayers and your intentions. Courage moves fear out and helps you create what you do want in your life. Think with courage. Act with courage. Pray with courage. Feel courageous and enjoy the peace of mind that comes.

No Fear Tip #7:

Follow Emerson’s guidance, “Do the things you fear and the death of fear is certain.”

Does having the courage to do what you are afraid of make sense? Should you consider doing it? As you take action, fear could subside.

No Fear Tip #8:

Fear is the seventh most powerful force in the world. Surprised it isn’t number one?

Love and gratitude are the most powerful force, with five other emotions in your Life Guidance System more powerful than fear. You have power available to you which is greater than fear. Focus on the upper six emotions of your Life Guidance System and experience no fear or much less fear.

No Fear Tip #9:

For peace of mind create focus on living from the upper six emotions of your Life Guidance System.

Research has confirmed these emotions create 75% to 100% of what you want in your life. What you focus on with your mind is formed and experienced in your outside world

No Fear Tip #10:

Help other people find the courage overcome their fears and experience peace of mind. When you are not in fear, but standing back rationally helping another with their fears, you will quickly see fears can be unfounded and simple to overcome. In helping another have no fear, it will become easier for you to let go of yours.

So there you have it. Start now and you could have a life filled with peace of mind, courage and no fear.

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A Funny Story about Healing Stress, Anxiety and Even Chest Pain

Let me tell you a quick story that could help you or a loved one create a better life and find peace of mind.

Norman Vincent Peale, a church pastor and author of The Power of Positive Thinking, tells of man, for the sake of privacy, called “Exhibit A.”

This man was once very difficult to be around according to Normal Vincent Peale. Even though “Exhibit A” had been able to achieve a level of financial success, which was amazing given his nature, this man was so short-tempered and irritable that even his own family avoided him. He had built a successful business but he never seemed happy.

This man soon developed chest pain including shortness of breath and tightness near his heart. He went from doctor to doctor and none could find any physical cause for the chest pain. Doctors said his heart was strong, lungs fine and circulation more than adequate.

Norman Vincent Peale said “Exhibit A” was prescribed a large number of pills for chest pain, more than anyone else he knew. But the pills didn’t seem to rid the chest pain symptoms.

Finally, one of the doctors recommended “Exhibit A” see a specialist in Chicago.

After reviewing his medical file and an examination of the man, the Chicago medical specialist said, “This chest pain is pseudo-pain. It’s not from a physical source. The chest pain is caused by wrong, unhealthy, painful thinking. Change your thinking and start living an enthusiastic life and you will be well. That is my prescription. That will be one thousand five hundred dollars.”

The man screamed, “One thousand five hundred dollars! For what?”

The doctor replied, “For knowing what to tell you. You charge plenty in your business. So do I.”

The doctor, of course, knew in order for “Exhibit A” to follow guidance he would have to pay dearly for it.

So the angry man returned home saying, “Well, I’ll show that jerk. I’ll turn around my thinking and get my fifteen hundred dollars worth if it kills me.”

This was precisely what the doctor had predicted this man would do.

The man went to Norman Vincent Peale to help, to which Peale said to the man, “Okay, how far do you live from here?”

The man answered, “About five miles.”

Norman Vincent Peale replied, “I want you to send your driver and car home for the day. I want you to walk home. And as you do, give God thanks for your mind, your eyes, your heart, your lungs, your arms, your legs and your feet. Thank God you have been told by all the doctors that you have a healthy body. Thank God you had the financial means to go to Chicago. Walk home practicing gratitude, which will give you enthusiasm for life. Give thanks for all you see, smell and experience on your walk home.”

Norman Vincent Peale continued, “Tomorrow, I want you to walk back here in the morning and tell me how you feel.”

The daily walks continued with the man asking the minister to join him. After five days of walking together, Norman Vincent Peale asked, “Why don’t you let God take over and walk with you? Talk to Him as you are talking to me.”

And the man did. He soon became a popular and lovable person because of his new, positive personality which included gratefulness, enthusiasm and pleasurable. He attracted good people and great life circumstances. This story is not meant to be a substitute for sound medical advice. If you have chest pain see a medical doctor right away. With the help of his doctors and his minister, this man’s chest pain did become a thing of the past.

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February 22, 2006 05:55 PM

How to Overcome Burnout, Anxiety and Depression

Here are some simple, yet effective, ways to have a better life by overcoming burnout, anxiety and depression.

Lori Prokop Better Life Tip #1

Start the day achieving. The tone of your day is set in its first five minutes. Henry Thoreau used to stay in bed after waking telling himself all the good news he could think of. When he arose to meet the day, his mind attracted good things, good people and good opportunities.

One of my mentors told me, “Lori, many prominent men and women, upon rising in the morning, think great, positive thoughts. Then, they go out in the world and the energy of happiness and success is naturally attracted.”

This helps avoid and overcome burnout, anxiety and depression. It spreads enthusiasm all day. By nightfall, you will have accumulation of positive energy and results.

Lori Prokop Better Life Tip #2

Seek material filled with positive messages. For some this is religious texts or spiritual books. Books, CDs, DVDs and movies with messages of love, hope, joy and success are great fuel for overcoming burnout, anxiety and depression.

Stop reading tragic news. Disasters are not stopped because you read historically about them. Research is discovering that when people concentrate on violence, anger or fear, these types of incidence increase.

A friend of mine called and said, “Lori, have I got great news for you.”

He went on to tell me that in Washington, D.C. a group of people concentrated on love, kindness and healing and the crime rate decreased during that time. Select movies, television, songs, books and news that renew your spirit and your mind. The goal here is to lesson negative energy to avoid burnout, anxiety and depression.

Lori Prokop Better Life Tip #3

Love your life and the people in it. This can seem like no easy task, especially in today’s world. Sometimes it seems like people have gone insane with anger, jealousy and fear. This is just the reason why love is more important now than ever as an antidote to burnout, anxiety and depression.

In research conducted by Dr. Raymond Moody, he interviewed over 2,000 people who had died and come back to life. The research is featured in his book and documentary movie, Life After Life, which have sold over 13 million copies. I place this work on the Lori Prokop favorite list because it gives a powerful answer to burnout, anxiety and depression.

The people were interviewed individually, so they could not hear one person’s story and claim the same experience. They were from all religious backgrounds including no religion.

The strongest message “from the other side” spoken by the largest number of participants was: “Love is what is keeping this earth and people alive. The most important thing is love.”

Lori Prokop Better Life Tip #4

Guard your energy level. To overcome burnout, anxiety and depression and have a better life, make sure your incoming energy is greater than your outgoing energy.

Living at any of the lower 15 levels of your Life Guidance System will drain your energy. These lower level emotions which create burnout, anxiety and depression are, for example, frustration, overwhelm, jealousy, anger, blame, “keeping up the Jones” and fear.

The upper six emotional levels of your Life Guidance System will charge your energy and help eliminate burnout, anxiety and depression. These are emotional choices such as contentment, ease, positive expectation, hopefulness, enthusiasm, love and gratitude.

So go ahead. These steps will help you overcome burnout, anxiety and depression so you can experience a better life.

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February 21, 2006 10:46 PM

The Key to Success from Think and Grow Rich and Napoleon Hill

One of the greatest success books is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. What many people don’t know is that Napoleon Hill had many mentors including W. Clement Stone.

W. Clement Stone was a genuinely enthusiastic person. He was asked for his key to success and enthusiasm.

“As you know,” W. Clement Stone shared about his key to success, “emotions are not controlled by logic and reason. But they are controlled by mental thought and physical action. Furthermore, the repetition of the same thoughts or the same actions develops into a habit, which repeated with frequency, becomes an automatic reflex.”

“And that is why I use self-motivators. This is an affirmation repeatedly used to deliberately cause in you a desirable action. You verbally repeat self-motivators 50 times in the morning, 50 times mid-day and 50 times at night for 10 days. This imprints the words permanently in your memory.”

Some of the self-motivators W. Clement Stone recommended are:

1) Find one good idea that will work and work that one idea
2) God is always a good God.
3) You have a problem…good!
4) Within every adversity there is a seed of an equivalent or greater benefit
5) Do it now
6) To be enthusiastic, ACT enthusiastically

If you are not getting as much from life as you desire, then examine the type of thoughts you are using to create your life. Your thoughts create your outcomes. Are you thinking positive thoughts and creating what you want?

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February 20, 2006 06:43 PM

The Secret of Success the Vince Lombardi Way

It’s true. Famous football coach Vince Lombardi faced one of his toughest life challenges when he became coach of the defeated, discouraged Green Bay Packers.

In the first practice as coach, Vince Lombardi stood before the Green Bay Packers silently looking over the players. With enthusiasm and confidence Vince Lombardi said, “Gentlemen, we are going to have a great football team. We are going to win games. Get that. You are going to learn to run. You are going to learn to block. You are going to learn to outplay teams that come up against you. Get that.”

Vince Lombardi continued with enthusiasm, “And how is this going to be done? What is the secret to success? You are to have confidence in me and enthusiasm for my system.”

Tapping his temple, Lombardi instructed, “The secret of success will be what goes on up here. From this point on, I want you to think of only three things: your home, your religion and the Green Bay Packers, in that order! Let enthusiasm take hold of you.”

The players straightened up in their seats. The quarterback said with confidence and enthusiasm, “I walked out of that meeting feeling ten feet tall!”

With this attitude of enthusiasm, the same players who had lost 10 games the prior year before Vince Lombardi won seven games. The second year they won the division championship. The third year with Vince Lombardi’s guidance and direction the team won the World Championship.

How?

They had worked and practiced just as hard in prior years but the difference was confidence and enthusiasm. The difference was not more practice. It was better practice.

My team players would tell you, “Lori is always telling us practice does not make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect.”

What happened for this professional football team can happen for an individual, a business, a church, an organization and a country. The secret of success is that what goes in the minds of people will determine the level of success.

A great leader said to me, “Lori, when a person experiences confidence and enthusiasm, you can see much more than mere hope in his or her eyes. You see determination and belief. You observe her vibrant personality even in her steps. Her attitude towards people, his job and the world is greatly improved when enthusiasm is present.

Make no mistake about it. The key to success is living with confidence and enthusiasm

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Success: Key to Success is Self Confidence and Overcoming Inferiority Complex

Let me tell you a brief story. By the time you finish reading this quick article, you will see the key to success.

An inferiority complex, feeling not good enough, leads to less than desirable results, even failure.

I asked a doctor the characteristics of an inferiority complex. She said, "Symptoms can be attacking others, speaking negatively, propagating gossip and doing damage to self. A large number of people, who look like they have self confidence, suffer from the inferiority complex."

The key to success is to overcome the inferiority complex, either your own or someone else's.

After speaking to a convention of men and women in a large city, I moved from stage to an area of the auditorium near a sign saying, "Lori Prokop Book Signing."

At the autograph table I was greeted by a large number of people and signed books when a visibly intense man asked, "Excuse me. Lori Prokop, may I speak with you privately about self confidence and dealing with an inferiority complex?"

I answered, "Yes. Can you wait until the crowd has gone?"

With relief, he politely answered, "Yes, Lori Prokop, I would like that very much."

Once back stage, he began, "I need all the self confidence I can find. I have to achieve the biggest business deal of my life. Lori Prokop, if I have success, it means the world to me. If I fail, I'm done for."

I proposed he relax. Few situations or deals are so final, although they may feel to be the only key to success. An important step is to know if he did succeed that was fine. If he didn't succeed, there would be other days and deals. This is the beginning of overcoming an inferiority complex and achieving self confidence.

He continued, "I have a real inferiority complex. I just don't have the self confidence I want. Here I am forty-five years old. I've been plagued by my inferiority complex. Lori Prokop, I listened to your speech tonight about self confidence. I want to know the key to success you, Lori Prokop, would recommend to help me achieve self confidence."

"There are three steps to take," I answered.

"First step is to discover why you have these feelings. I have a free report at my web site that reveals the 12 Rules of Abuse, which are beliefs people learned as children that keep them from achieving what they want as adults.

"You must approach the inferiority complex and self confidence problems looking for a cause and removing it. This may require self-analysis or assistance of a counselor or therapist.

"To help you and be of assistance now with your immediate problem, I will give you my own Lori Prokop formula which works for me. Starting today, I want you to repeat this powerful phrase I will give you. Tomorrow, I want you to say it throughout the day. Do you agree?"

He replied, "Yes, Lori Prokop, I agree."

I said, "Here is the Lori Prokop Formula."

"I am free of worry about how to figure things out. God does that for me. Together, as partners, God and I achieve success in everything, whether overcoming obstacles or going straight to the top."

I continued, "You can substitute words for what God is to you. The main message here is that you are not alone. Your Life Partner is powerful and on your side always."

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February 19, 2006 12:19 PM

Stress Relief: 10 Ways to Overcome Stress and Anxiety and find Peace of Mind

Let’s face it. Wouldn’t you like a life with the peace of mind that comes from knowing how to find stress relief? Is it as easy as just finding ways to relax?

Here are 10 of my best Tips on how can you get rid of stress and anxiety and have peace of mind? Here’s how.

1) Down Easy. When you feel your muscles tightening from stress and anxiety, make a choice to relax. Years ago at one of my first speaking events I found stress relief from a seasoned member of the stage crew who said, “Lori, here’s how I relax.” This is what he told me to get rid of my stress and anxiety.

Imagine yourself as a rubber band stretched tightly. Relax and just let go. You will see how quickly the rubber band finds its own stress relief and comes back into its normal shape. Upon your direction, your muscles and body do the same thing and find their stress relief.

2) Breathe. I find when I feel stress and anxiety, I breathe shallowly. When I am at events, and especially if I am feeling stress and anxiety, people remind me, “Lori, you need to find stress relief and peace of mind. Breathe!”

Here is the Lori Prokop Peace of Mind Technique. I’m not saying that I invented it. I am saying it is one of the ways I use to relax and get rid of stress and anxiety.

To find peace of mind imagine being surrounded with pure air. Breathe peace in. Breathe stress and anxiety out. Notice how much more pure and unique the peaceful air smells. Breathe in peace again. Breathe out stress and anxiety. Repeat as desired.

3) One-Minute Peace of Mind. At times the world can be moving so fast we forget to relax, take a break and find stress relief. Many people who experience stress and anxiety have a challenge with slowing down and finding peace of mind for any length of time.

If this is you, start with the Lori Prokop One-Minute Peace of Mind Technique.
Just stand still for one minute. Look at something beautiful or read a quote for one minute. Spread these through your day and see how many minutes of stress relief you can accumulate.

4) One-Minute Relax. Here is quick stress relief and one of many great ways to relax.

To get rid of stress and anxiety, sit for a moment or longer if you choose. Relax and extend your feet on the floor in front of you and feel the stress and anxiety leave your body.

For maximum stress relief, place your head back on the headrest. Raise your arms in front of you. Then permit them to gently fall towards and rest on the top of your thighs. Feel the stress relief and peace of mind.

5) Mind Trip. Right now for peace of mind, picture the most pleasurable place you have ever been or seen. Multiple times each day, return in your mind to this place and experience the healing peace of mind feelings. When I do this, I imagine a beautiful lake with a sign saying, “Welcome, Lori Prokop.” Instantly I have peace of mind and stress relief.

6) Peace. Melt away stress and anxiety by imagining what peace of mind feels like. Feel peace flowing through your mind and body. For stress relief, I say to myself, “I am peace. I feel my body moving from stress and anxiety to relaxation.” You can do the same and feel peace of mind.

7) Remove. Every morning and evening remove thoughts of stress and anxiety. See these thoughts flowing out and peace of mind flowing in.

8) Say. A spiritual healer once said to me, “Lori, words heal, especially words such as relax, tranquility, peacefulness, restfulness, serenity.” Pick words that relax you. Repeat them throughout your day.

9) Time. Here is one of the top Lori Prokop Ways to Relax. Each day spend 10 minutes in quite. Use this to empty your mind, as best you can, of thoughts or stress and anxiety. If you find it challenging to experience peace of mind for 10 minutes, then try one minute each hour of the day. If you find it challenge to find peace of mind at all then use this time to read a book with a healing message.

10) Three. For maximum stress relief, upon rising in the morning and turning in for the evening, I say three times to myself, “100% pure love and light is with me, guiding me and helping me.” Try doing the same.

There you have 10 ways to relax and melt away stress and anxiety. So go ahead and use these Top 10 Lori Prokop Stress Relief and Peace of Mind Techniques right now.

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February 18, 2006 10:27 PM

6 Steps to Overcome Worry

Let’s face it. Wouldn’t you like a life with no worries? Is it as easy as saying, “Just don’t worry?”

Developing a habit of worry can happen so quickly you may not even notice it. Often, worry is learned when people are so young, they come to believe worry is natural. It is not. Worry is a mental affliction which can deepen into fear, anxiety and depression.

How can you get rid of worry for good and have no worries? Here’s how.

1) Realize. Worry is a habit. We are with no worries, not with the ability to worry. It is something you learn from others. Who taught you how to worry?

Brain researchers have recently concluded a habit can be made or broken in 21 to 40 days. The first step to having a worry free life is to break yourself of the worry habit.

2) Stop strangling yourself. The meaning of worry is to strangle or choke off your ability to think and reason soundly. Worry depletes your energy and can even cause physical illness. (You’ve heard of being worried sick? It can really happen.) A health consultant advised me, “Lori, just don’t worry.”

3) Unwise. Statistically worry is a foolish waste of time.

The numbers show 40% of worries are about the past, 50% are about the future and only 10% are about today’s problems.

Is worrying worth it? Only 8% of what people worry themselves sick about ever happens and 92% of worries never occur.

Most likely, when you worry you are paying a high price for something that isn’t even real. For no worries, before you worry about something ask yourself if it is really happening now and if you could control it if it is.

4) Release. What if someone says, “Lori Prokop, don’t worry, be happy?” Here is how I recommend living as close to no worries as you can. Say daily, “I forgive myself and others for mistakes of the past.”

Do this “Don’t Worry Advice” not for their sake, for your own sanity.

5) Steady. Cultivate a stable, steady personality of no worries. I know it can be fun and exciting watching movies with characters having worries and emotional meltdowns. But it is not fun living your life that way.

Regardless of the amount of worry, anxiety or stress around you, take this advice and say, “My Higher Power of 100% pure love is keeping me peaceful and calm.”

6) Gratitude. One of the quickest ways to feel relief is to connect to your Higher Power through gratitude. Do this and you will feel a capable, calm and loving presence with you every minute of the day. I am asked, “Lori how do you get rid of worry?”

I recommend this statement, or one like it, daily, “Thank you to my Higher Power of 100% pure love who is with me always — communicating with, helping and guiding me.”

Don’t worry, be happy. To be worry free, consistently apply these steps. You will be amazed at the progress you can make at eliminating worry and how good it will feel to have no worries.

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February 17, 2006 09:53 PM

Child Abuse: 7 Things You Must Know to Heal

By Shelly Horvath

No problem is too great to solve, even the pain of child abuse, emotional abuse and drug abuse.

These 7 steps from John Bradshaw, Lori Prokop and others will help you cope with and overcome pain. Many of these steps I found from Lori Prokop founder of http://www.howtohealabuse.com. Looking at her own family, Lori Prokop discovered child abuse, emotional abuse and drug abuse were generational.

1) Get rid of fear. Fear is the lowest emotional level according to your Life Guidance System discovered by Lori Prokop. What is your Life Guidance System?

Research by Lori Prokop shows you have 21 emotional levels. Six of those emotional levels create what you want in your life. Fifteen of those emotional levels create what you don’t.

I love free resources. I found the 21 emotional levels explained and the actual Life Guidance System chart developed by Lori Prokop in the free special report offered at the How to Heal Abuse web site. It’s clear to me Lori wants to help people. Even thought this Life Guidance System chart has great value and created immediate positive results for me, Lori gives it away free.

The Life Guidance System says fear manifests into 99% of what you do not want. Your fear works against you and works in the favor of those trying to hurt you. Your fear is their most powerful weapon.

2) Affirm and believe that with help from your Higher Power you can deal with, resolve and overcome the difficulty. A good source for this is Dr. Norman Vincent Peale’s book, “The Power of Positive Thinking.”

3) Reason. Always use sound, reasonable thinking. Include the help of other people who can do so. People who have achieved healing and success say the key was having a team. Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” wrote extensively on this subject. All “12-step groups” are based on this principle.

4) Spiritual healing. Seek spiritual healing and guidance from a source of 100% pure love. Some people say, “Let go and let God.”

At a workshop, John Bradshaw who wrote the book “Bradshaw On: The Family” said even with all the psychological healing people have done, there still exists a hole. That hole is spiritual healing. John Bradshaw says this often needs to be filled before complete healing is realized.

When it comes to spiritual healing, Lori Prokop says this doesn’t mean to never take action to resolve your difficulties. Rather, part of spiritual healing means to hand over your problems to your divine source seeking advice and guidance on what to do and not do for a solution that is the highest good for all involved.

Lori recommends saying multiple times a day, “I am free of worry about how to figure things out. God does that for me.” Then, Lori recommends giving thanks for the solution of 100% pure love before it even becomes evident to you.

5) Break the difficulty into manageable parts. Analyzing the large problem until you see it is actually comprised of small challenges is what Lori Prokop recommends.

Abuse can be comprised of more than one type. Lori Prokop gives the example that child abuse and emotional abuse are often caused by drug abuse. The abuser could be using drugs because they were victims of child abuse and emotional abuse. This is how the cycle perpetuates.

Lori advises that tackling the entire abuse issue all at once can be too much to resolve. But starting with an intervention for one of the abuses, such as the drug abuse, may start the healing process for the other abuses.

6) Persistence. Some challenges require time to resolve. Patience is a must.

7) Say. I saw versions of this powerful step from many greats such as Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, Lori Prokop, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra and others.

Multiple times each day say aloud, “I know that my Higher Power and I can solve all problems together.”

Believe me. Once you start applying this information, you can experience a change for the better. To quote Lori Prokop, “As each difficulty in your life is solved you will become stronger, more educated and more capable. Life becomes better.”

Shelly Horvath writes about how to heal abuse and create what you want in life. She reads authors like Dr. Peale, John Bradshaw and Lori Prokop. Visit www.howtohealabuse.com for free resources. Click here for free Life Guidance System by Lori Prokop.

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February 16, 2006 12:23 PM

How to Overcome Sadness and Grief

Dealing with sadness and grief can feel overwhelming, but there are answers. Here are 10 tips you may find helpful and healing.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #1

Our experience on earth includes the inevitable passing of loved ones and friends, as well as the ups and downs of career, business, family and life.

Whether you have lost a loved one, a business or a job, I recommend the highly-respected book and movie, “Life After Life.” They have sold 13 million copies.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #2

Do not feel ashamed of your sadness and grief by trying to contain or hide it. Tears are meant to cleanse and relieve. Cry out your pain. Pray out your grief. Peace will come.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #3

For your own healing, continue on with a life of activities as before. Or you may consider finally doing what you have wanted to do for years.

If you have lost a loved one, know he or she would want you to carry on. Whether here or there, he or she really wants what is best for you.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #4

Refrain from saying you have “lost” your loved one. A line of poetry says, “Love cannot lose itself.” You have not lost. Rather, your loved one is living in a new dimension, yet still close to you.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #5

You can ask loved ones who have passed to continue being with you through your prayers, dreams or signs only the two of you would know. Even friends of mine who have not believed this was possible, once a loved one transitions, tell me it is very real.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #6

Many who have loved ones who transition want to know, “Where is my loved one?”

Spirituality has been telling us and research is now beginning to prove he or she is well, strong and happy surrounded by love. Realize your loved one is fine — quite fine. (See Life After Life.)

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #7

Realize your Higher Power has made it possible for you and your loved one to meet here on earth.

Think about that. There are over SIX BILLION people on earth. Out of six billion people you could have been with, you and your loved were brought together here.

Find comfort knowing your Higher Power will also make sure you and your loved one will be together “over there.”

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #8

Often the best way to overcome our own sadness and grief is to help someone else feel better. What we give out into the world comes back ten-fold. That includes the love and help we extend to another.

Make a list of all the people you know who are feeling sadness or grief. Next to each name write something nice you can do to brighten his or her day. As you follow through with the list of actions, you will find healing, peace, gratitude and comfort in doing so.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #9

Humans have incredible resilience. Having faith and connection to a Higher Power of 100% pure light and love can help relief, healing and recovery comes quicker and easier.

Lori Prokop Healing Sadness and Grief Tip #10

For some people, the greatest sadness and grief relief is found in their spirituality. Some people who have little prior spiritual beliefs seek answer during hardships or loss. Read spiritual books. Listen to spiritual CDs. Watch spiritual DVDs.

I don’t know if this helps you, but I find comfort in the quote, “It is better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all.”

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February 14, 2006 11:44 PM

Relationship Advice: Discover How to Solve Relationship Problems

What if I told you that you could start right now solving relationship problems and creating healthy relationships — both new and existing? Here’s how:

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #1

Are you comfortable with yourself? The first best friend you need is you. If you have problems or are critical of yourself, seek the help of a counselor or therapist to look at where you learned this behavior. You likely learned this as a child from parents, caregivers, peers or teachers. Whatever the issue, it can be overcome.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #2

Intimacy does not mean physical relations. Intimacy is “in-to-me-i-see.”

In order to connect with others and have a healthy relationship, you have to first connect with yourself. You can’t be close with another until you can be close with yourself. Again, as in the above step, if this is a challenge, help is available. Seek a counselor or therapist and talk to them about this.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #3

Looking for love? What do you enjoy doing? Find others who enjoy the same. There are thousands of hobby, professional and special interest groups always open to new members.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #4

What thoughts are you focused on? How lonely you are? How the right person hasn’t come along yet? Lonely people strengthen their loneliness with the power of negative thinking.

One of life’s most powerful secrets to creating a healthy relationship is to stop thinking about what you don’t want or don’t have and start focusing on what you do want. This will magnetize to you what you desire.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #5

Are person who can have fun and appreciate life? This doesn’t mean you need to live at the edge of life doing wild and crazy things or be the loudest person at the party. It means you do not complain, lash out or put down others. The basis of a healthy relationship is two people who enjoy themselves and each other. Find humor and genuine appreciation for things others may overlook.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #6

A lonely life can feel empty and therefore unpleasant. The secret is to have a full mind and full life: full of activities, full of people, full of interests you love, full of relaxation and full of experiences.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #7

Have a plan for every day, even choosing the days you plan to rest and do nothing. Meet new people and experience new places. Try new things.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #8

When you look around, you will see other people who are feeling lonely. Help others find their ways out of loneliness. By doing so, you will be so busy that you won’t have time to be lonely.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #9

Those who help others are not going to stay lonely for long. Your community needs plenty of good people like you to help others. There are numerous volunteer activities in all sorts of organizations.

Like technology or TV? Volunteer at your local cable access. Like animals? No-kill animal shelters and sanctuaries are full of animals and the people who love them. Like people? Organizations for all types of people welcome volunteers with open arms.

Find what you like and there is likely a volunteer position waiting for you.

Lori Prokop Relationship Advice #10

Even if you were the last person on earth, you would not be alone. You have a Great Friend who is always with you.

What’s stopping you from enjoying the healthy relationship you desire? Put these 10 tips to the test right away.

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February 13, 2006 11:45 AM

10 Simple Steps to Have a Better Life

Let’s face it. Most people want a better life. One of the most common questions I hear from clients it, “Lori Prokop, how can I have a better life?” It never seems to fail that it’s our own habits, weaknesses or characteristic that keep us from the better life we desire.

Even with these personal challenges, the power exists to have a better life. Here are the Lori Prokop 10 Steps you can use to have the better life you desire.

1) Recognize the power to have a better life comes through faith in a Higher Power. It was a valuable lesson the day I realized, “Lori, you are not alone.”

2) Give your problems to your Higher Power. I do this by saying, “Lori, you are free of worry about how to figure things out. God does that for you.”

3) Focus your awareness on the six upper emotional levels of your Life Guidance System. This is the most powerful and quickest step to a better life where you can actually create what you want in your life.

4) Practice the principle “let go and let God” — whatever your understanding of God is.

5) Ask your Higher Power to give you a better life. Believe and feel a better life is on its way to you. Before it even arrives, I say to myself, “I now give thanks for this better life.”

6) Read spiritual and success materials. Make a list of actual words of success people have used to create better lives. Practice these words until they are firmly in your memory. You automatically speak them naturally. Here is one to help you get started to a better life. Each day I say to myself, “I forgive myself and others for mistakes of the past.”

7) On my wall I have a poster with quotes from eight great spiritual leaders. When I need a solution, I ask myself, “What would great spiritual leaders do right now?” Then do that.

8) Form a daily habit of focusing on positive emotions, encouraging intentions and gratitude. I call mine the Lori Prokop Quite Time. Some people call this meditation, prayer or creating. Set aside specific times or dedicate five minutes each waking hour to create a better life all day long.

9) Read, watch or listen to spiritual, inspirational and healing materials. Study parts which appeal to you. I have a library of material I call the Lori Prokop Better Life Library. Start your own today.

10) For a better life, practice feeling and sending love and good will to both friends and others.

Now it is time to start putting these Lori Prokop Better Life Steps in action. So, go ahead and create the better life you desire.

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February 12, 2006 09:30 PM

No Worries: Two Instant Strategies Anyone Can Use to Get Rid of Worry

A skeptical, hard-nosed New York banker saw a church advertising their next sermon, “You Can Get Rid of Worry.” He sneered at the announcement but decided to attend because he was looking for the answer to his anxiety and worry.

His past actions, negative thoughts and resulting personality had drained him of happiness. They were also threatening his business achievements and position. His anxious, tense and nervous ways were compromising his performance.

The minister suggested to the congregation a private “worry cleansing.” He instructed each person, in the privacy of their own home, to write their worries, old and new, on slips of paper. Then, study each slip to determine how real these worries were.

It was surprising to all what a high percentage, over 90%, of what they worried about had never come to be.

They were instructed to look at statistical averages of how likely current worries were to happen.

As the banker was looking at his slips of paper, in a sweep of his hand, he pushed into the garbage the worries he deemed worthless wastes of his time saying, “Thank you, God, for your amazing power to help and change even a person like me. I feel different and better. And I know it.”

Achieving No Worries

Then he took the remaining slips of paper back to the minister the next week. With the minister at his side, the banker studied the few slips on which real concerns were written. The banker confided, “God and I together can take care of these matters.”

As the banker spoke, the minister pulled a card from his pocket and read it to the banker. It said, “God, help me to remember that all which may happen to me today can be handled and resolved by You and I together.”

A spiritual exercise and conversation had the power to remove worry from this man’s life. When the banker found his connection to a Higher Power who was able to provide him solutions for all problems, the banker had no worries.

Add Up Your Blessings and Subtract Your Worries

Psychologically and spiritually this is a sound exercise. Write out your blessings and count them. Your worries will begin to fade away as their power disappears.

After a speaking event to a large group, I was signing autographs and answering questions. A man waited around until others were gone out of earshot. He approached me desperately saying, “Excuse me, Lori Prokop, may I speak with you? Everything in my life is going badly and I am worrying myself sick.”

He continued, “It’s all over. Everything is washed up. Nothing left but a terrible mess that can’t be fixed.”

I compassionately replied, “I am so sorry to hear your wife has run off with someone else.”

To which he retorted, “My wife has not run off. She loves me and would stick through thick or thin with me.”

“Great, get out a paper and pen,” I said. “Let’s write that on a list of what you have going for you, your Blessing List. We’ll make a list of what you have lost and what you have left. So first, let’s write what you have left.”

Then I continued, “I am so sorry to hear your children are murderous drug dealers who are hurting others.”

Annoyed, he defended, “Lori, my children are wonderful. They have both said they support me no matter what. They love me dearly.”

“Wonderful,” I said. “Let’s include that on your Blessing List of what you have going for you, children who love you.”

Then I continued, “I’m real sorry to hear your house was leveled by a tornado and your insurance expired because you didn’t have enough money to get by.

He replied, “We don’t get tornados here. Lori, where are you coming up with this stuff? My house is fine. My insurance is paid. Even though times are really tough, we find enough money to get by.”

“Great,” I said. “Let’s write no tornados, house fine, insurance paid and enough money to get by.”

By this time, the Blessing List was becoming visually apparent.

He said, “I can see I’ve been wrong. I have more going for me than I realized. And much of it is the most important things like the love of my family. I’ve never really considered those assets, but I guess they are.”

We finished the Blessing List. His worries and fears lost their power to the point he felt it was not even necessary to write them down. We gave a prayer of thanks and gratitude for what he did have.

He kept in touch letting me know his turn from negative thinking to positive created victory over worry. He stopped worrying and started living.

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How to Get Rid of Addiction and Abuse

Tell me, does this describe someone you know?

Some people who feel inferior use an addiction to try to overcome weaknesses, especially in times of increased stress or deep inner conflict. A person’s inner inferiority complex reveals itself in his or her actions such as addiction, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, child abuse, compulsive eating, blame and aggression among others.

No successful person desires
a destructive addiction. What people who choose addiction or abuse really
want is the power and ability to create better lives.

Fearing they do not have this
power to improve their lives, you will hear these people use excuses and
blame to justify their addiction and abuse and protect what little dignity
they feel they have left.

If you find yourself or
others dealing with addiction or abuse, instead of justifying or blaming,
ask the following questions:

• Do I really want healing and resolution for this addiction or abuse?


• Am I willing to improve myself to achieve healing?


• Do I realize I can’t control others? The only one I can control is me.


• Am I willing to take the first step for myself and get rid of my addiction, abuse excuses, blame and other destructive habits to achieve peace and happiness?

Alcohol abuse and drug abuse
are common crutches today. I have met many people who feel tongue-tied or
awkward at social events. They find a few cocktails or beers “give them a
lift” turning them from introvert to extrovert.  There are many people who
drink to feel better about themselves, even to the point of abuse or
addiction.

For an article entitled
Lori Prokop Interviews the Experts, one doctor said to me, “It’s sad but
true. A seemingly innocent use of alcohol can quickly and easily become an
addiction, especially if people perceive they are someway ‘improved’ when
they drink.”

Alcohol abuse, drug abuse and
any other addiction are serious forms of personal loss. The people, who
depend on any exterior addiction or abuse rather than improving their
perceived weaknesses and healing their pains, are beaten from the start.

Such a person can find
healing. They must get rid of the addiction and abuse, find a healing system
which works and resolve their fears and pains.

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9 Steps to Overcome Worry

Let’s face it. Wouldn’t you like a life with no worries? Is it as easy as saying just don’t worry?

Developing a habit of worry can happen so quickly you may not even notice it. Often, worry is learned when people are so young, they come to believe worry is natural. It is not. Worry is a mental affliction which can deepen into fear, anxiety and depression.

How can you get rid of worry for good and have no worries? Here’s how.

1) Realize. Worry is a habit. We are with no worries, not with the ability to worry. It is something you learn from others. Who taught you how to worry?

Brain researchers have recently concluded a habit can be made or broken in 21 to 40 days. The first step to having a worry free life is to break yourself of the worry habit.

2) Stop strangling yourself. The meaning of worry is to strangle or choke off your ability to think and reason soundly. Worry depletes your energy and can even cause physical illness. (You’ve heard of being worried sick? It can really happen.) A health consultant advised me, “Lori Prokop, just don’t worry.”

3) Unwise. Statistically worry is a foolish waste of time.

The numbers show 40% of worries are about the past, 50% are about the future and only 10% are about today’s problems.

Is worrying worth it? Only 8% of what people worry themselves sick about ever happens and 92% of worries never occur.

Most likely, when you worry you are paying a high price for something that isn’t even real. For no worries, before you worry about something ask yourself if it is really happening now and if you could control it if it is.

4) Release. What if someone says, “Lori, don’t worry, be happy?” Here is how I recommend living as close to no worries as you can. Say daily, “I forgive myself and others for mistakes of the past.”

Do this “Lori Prokop Don’t Worry Advice” not for their sakes, for your own sanity.

5) Look for the best. Stop looking for the worst in your situation, your future and in others. Live a life of no worries. Look for the best in your life and your future. Don’t worry about bad things that may happen. Focus on the power you do possess right now to create what you want in your life.

6) Steady. Cultivate a stable, steady personality of no worries. I know it can be fun and exciting watching movies with characters having worries and emotional meltdowns. But it is not fun living your life that way. Regardless of the amount of worry, anxiety or stress around you, take this advice and say, “My Higher Power of 100% pure love is keeping me peaceful and calm.”

7) Know what worry to procrastinate. One of the skills of happy people is to know what worry to procrastinate and overlook. This may seem an odd way to a worry free life. Let me explain.

Do all the items on your “to-do” list need to be accomplished today? Does everything in your home need to meet your standards? Where could you have no worries on yourself and others?

The well-respected psychologist William James noted, “Genius is to know what to overlook.” Lessen your self-accepted burdens and you will find you don’t worry as much.

8) Clear and Replace. Your mind can be cleared of any thoughts so you don’t worry. If it is full of worry, you can become worry free and replace worry with peaceful, calm and loving thoughts from the upper emotional levels of your Life Guidance System.

Do this by saying, “I choose thoughts and feeling of 100% pure light and love. My heart and mind are full of peace and strength.”

9) Gratitude. One of the quickest ways to feel relief is to connect to your Higher Power through gratitude. Do this and you will feel a capable, calm and loving presence with you every minute of the day. I am asked, “Lori Prokop how do you get rid of worry?”

I recommend this statement, or one like it, daily, “Thank you to my Higher Power of 100% pure love who is with me always — communicating with, helping and guiding me.”

Don’t worry, be happy. To be worry free, consistently apply these steps. You will be amazed at the progress you can make at eliminating worry and how good it will feel to have no worries.

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February 9, 2006 05:40 PM

Relationship Rescue: 4 Things You Must Know to Solve Relationship Problems

You may disagree, but hear me out on this. The world is full of people who live miserable lives because of fears. It affects all their relationships: family, romantic, casual, business.

Spouses fear each other. Children fear parents and teachers. Employees fear bosses. People stay in abusive relationships because of fear.

If a person is afraid or experiencing an inferiority complex, they will commonly attack others, either verbally or, less often, physically. If you see someone writing harmful or hurtful words about another, you can rest assured the writer is fearful and feeling inferior.

Here is the Lori Prokop Relationship Advice which will provide most any relationship help.

Lori Prokop Relationship Rescue #1:

Can a relationship problem be solved by guiding another who feels shy, afraid or inferior to healing? Relationship rescue could happen when people discover healthy ways to feel better and improve their view of themselves.

You can be guaranteed in every group there are those who suffer from the inferiority complex. You may be surprised to discover who they are. Often they are the loudest talkers and strongest attackers who use this behavior to cover up their own inferior feelings.

Identify a person feeling an inferiority complex and show him or her kindness — while staying out of an abusive relationship. This will help that person feel better while helping you feel better too.

Lori Prokop Relationship Rescue #2:

Be your real self. You are unique and valuable, just as you are right now. You are the only one of you that exists. Do not imitate or try to be like others. This is a sure sign of weakness and inferiority complex.

Solve your relationship problem by being yourself and make your own heart-based decisions.

Lori Prokop Relationship Rescue #3:

Choose 100% Pure Love. Now that may sound too airy-fairy for you. After all, you may be a “professional” with an image to uphold. You may be a tough person who fears appearing weak by choosing to live at the upper levels of your Life Guidance System.

The strongest, most successful people, who help the world the most, have chosen to live at the highest level of their Life Guidance System, which is 100% pure light and love.

But isn’t that out of reach for most “average” people? How could anyone really live a day-to-day life and choose 100% pure love?

The strongest people have realized learning to love others immediately resolves fear. Love casts out fear. You don’t have to love what others do. It means you love them, as they are with all their flaws and weaknesses. You love others even when they are at their worst. It doesn’t mean you say their pathetic behavior is acceptable to you. Rather, it says regardless of how pathetic or lost a person is, they are worthy of love. It is a being of love you energetically send to another rather than co-dependent love.

This being of love gives you inner strength. The more you generate genuine love for others, the less you will feel inferior in their presence. The easier your relationship with them will feel to you, even whether it stays or ends.

Lori Prokop Relationship Rescue #4:

Pray for your enemies. The greatest of leaders do this. It doesn’t mean these great leaders do not act to resolve issues. Rather, before acting, they send intentions of 100% pure love to their enemies.

After all, those causing relationship problems were to “find the light” and stop the harmful, destructive behavior, the relationship problem would resolve. Great leaders want situations resolved.

Send healing energy to your enemies with the intentions they will choose higher level, more loving emotions and stop their destructive patterns. It actually and amazingly works.

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February 8, 2006 01:14 AM

Stress Relief: 5 Ways to Overcome Stress and Anxiety and find Peace of Mind

Let’s face it. Wouldn’t you like a life with the peace of mind that comes from knowing how to find stress relief? Is it as easy as just finding ways to relax?

Here are my best Lori Prokop Tips on how can you get rid of stress and anxiety and have peace of mind? Here’s how.

1) Breathe. I find when I feel stress and anxiety, I breathe shallowly. When I am at events, and especially if I am feeling stress and anxiety, people remind me, “Lori, you need to find stress relief and peace of mind. Breathe!”

Here is the Lori Prokop Peace of Mind Technique. I’m not saying invented it. I am saying it is one of the ways I use to relax and get rid of stress and anxiety.

To find peace of mind imagine being surrounded with pure air. Breathe peace in. Breathe stress and anxiety out. Notice how much more pure and unique the peaceful air smells. Breathe in peace again. Breathe out stress and anxiety. Repeat as desired.

2) Peace. Melt away stress and anxiety by imagining what peace of mind feels like. Feel peace flowing through your mind and body. For stress relief, I say to myself, “Lori, I am peace. I feel my body moving from stress and anxiety to relaxation.” You can do the same and feel peace of mind.

3) Remove. Every morning and evening remove thoughts of stress and anxiety. See these thoughts flowing out and peace of mind flowing in.

4) Say. A spiritual healer once said to me, “Lori Prokop, words heal, especially words such as relax, tranquility, peacefulness, restfulness, serenity.” Pick words that relax you. Repeat them throughout your day.

5) Three. For maximum stress relief, upon rising in the morning and turning in for the evening, I say three times to myself, “Lori Prokop, 100% pure love and light is with me, guiding me and helping me.” Try doing the same.

There you have 5 ways to relax and melt away stress and anxiety. So go ahead and use these Top 5 Lori Prokop Stress Relief and Peace of Mind Techniques right now.

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February 6, 2006 02:03 PM

An Instant Anti-Aging Tip Anyone Can Use

By Shelly Horvath

Ever wonder the secret of people who seem to have the inside track on anti-aging? Let’s face it. Not everyone is choosing to go under the knife. Here is a quick, natural anti-aging story full of wisdom.

I heard this story from Lori Prokop, the creator of the web site http://www.howtohealabuse.com. It is about her friend best selling author of Believe It, Become It, Dr. Paula Fellingham. Lori Prokop says Paula is one of the most enthusiastic people she knows and has a great anti-aging secret she lives by.

Lori wouldn’t tell me Paula’s age but says Paula looks naturally great. I asked how. Here is what Lori said.

After a weekend workshop in Minneapolis where Lori Prokop was the featured speaker for the entire multi-day event, she and Paula were having dinner at a loud restaurant. Lori chose it because it was conveniently adjacent to the hotel. She and Paula were tired and really just wanted to get a quick bite to eat and retire for the evening.

In the restaurant, Lori Prokop and Paula Fellingham were too close to the bar for their preference as the table was being circled with smoke and overtaken with loud shouts from a group of people trying to impress each other.

At that moment, both women just wanted peace and quite. To Lori there was nothing beautiful about what she saw as a smoke-filled, over-crowded restaurant.

But Paula exclaimed with enthusiasm, “Lori, it’s so nice to be having dinner with you. Just being together makes this place more bearable.”

Lori instantly felt better and had the wisdom to thank her dear friend.

We’ve all been in those shoes, too preoccupied to be living in the now. Our job is to keep ourselves sensitized to it, to be aware of it. Living in the now is an anti-aging secret that keeps us young from the inside out.

Thoreau wrote about anti-aging, “None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm.”

Shelly Horvath writes about many self improvement subjects including anti-aging. She interviewed Lori Prokop. Visit www.howtohealabuse.com for free resources. Create what you want in life and manifest your desires. To discover how and get your Free Special Report.

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February 4, 2006 12:55 AM

No Problem is Too Great to Solve

At the famed Waldorf-Astoria in New York, J.C. Penny, an energetic 95-years old at the time was asked, “You’ve had plenty of problems in your life. What is your philosophy about problems?”

He answered, “Actually I’m grateful for all my problems. As I overcome each one I became stronger and more able to meet those yet to come. I grew because of my difficulties.”

Like J.C. and others who have achieved success, while first facing problems you will need to have a positive attitude towards them to overcome them.

Congratulations, You Have a Problem…

You may ask, “Lori, how come congratulations?”

When you have a problem, doesn’t sympathy seem more in order?

Wonderful results may come from your problem.

People’s first reaction to a problem is to feel inferior or inadequate. The mind tends to enlarge the problem, blowing it out of proportion. Then, the problem scares us because our thoughts of fear give the problem a level of power it really does not possess.

Start by cutting your problem down to its true size. Clear out your inner feelings of inadequacy-fear-panic and start thinking with hopefulness. No problem is as forbidding as it seems. When you break a problem down into its component parts, you can handle even big problems manageably. When a problem is in its bits and pieces, it doesn’t feel or look so big.

Analyze your problems, break it up into parts and write them down. Then ask for inner guidance as to how to proceed. Start with the easiest part of the problem first and solve it. As you solve parts, you will come to the main core of the problem. By this time, you will feel wonderful and more than adequate enough to solve the rest of the matter.

You will find you are bigger than any problem.

Are the Facts Stopping You?

In my office, I have a sign that says “Attitudes are more important than facts.”

Negative people will say, “Here is a cold, hard fact. A fact is a fact.”

Positive people will say, “Yes, here is a fact. There is a way to deal with and overcome this fact. I may need to go over it, under it, around it, through it or hit it straight on. A problem is meant to be solved. I have what it takes to solve it.”

The negative person will be defeated by the problem before they even consider how to solve it. A positive person will solve the problem creatively. The outcome created not so much from the facts of the problem as much as your attitude towards the facts and the problem.

Here are three steps to a problem solving outcome:

Lori Prokop Success Step #1

Think, rather than react.

When a problem arises, the tendency is to become angry, resentful or revengeful. Such choices are learned reactions, often picked up in early childhood from parents, teachers and caregivers.

You must learn to be calm and cool. Your mind cannot think, create or solve problems when it is hot. Only a calm, cool mind will produce great solutions. When your mind is working in a non-overheated way, you receive great ideas that solve problems rather than destructive impulses that create more.

Lori Prokop Success Step #2

Become a solution thinker.

After years of hard work, the economy took a turn for the worst and Patrick lost the family business. Instead of being full of resentment, he realized he had more going for him than against him.

“I didn’t have anything when I started 30 years ago. Today I have a few thousand dollars. So I am ahead. I started out on my own and today I have a loving wife and children. Thank God. And I have more life experience now.”

Within six months of his business loss Patrick started another business which supported his family. At the moment of his greatest problem, Patrick chose to become a solution thinker instead of a problem thinker.

The problem thinker stews over the problem saying resentfully, “If only this would have happened…It’s all so and so’s fault…If others wouldn’t have been so terrible…” The world is full of defeated problem thinkers.

The solution thinker moves quickly to looking for the best solution. She asks herself, “How can I use this setback experience to create a great outcome for me and others? How can I create something good from this?”

Lori Prokop Success Step #3

Believe you can and you can.

It is a universal principle. The person who believes they can, can. The person who believes they can’t, can’t. Expect the best and you will get it or something close. Expect the worst and you will get that instead.

Erase any failure thoughts. Remember “Ask and it shall be given to you. Seek and you shall find. Knock and the door shall be opened.”

Start out each morning saying “This is going to be the greatest day of my life.” If you do not believe in yourself, no one else will.

When a problem strikes, don’t fight it and don’t complain. Instead, start asking for and looking for solutions. A problem is one of the Universe’s greatest methods for teaching you and helping you develop to your full potential.

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February 1, 2006 06:45 AM

How to Have Guaranteed Courage

What do people with courage do that separates them from others?

Here are three tips and a great story to answer that question.

Lori Prokop Courage Tip #1

People who live with courage simply and truthfully admit their fear of failure.

Lori Prokop Courage Tip #2

Then, once acknowledged, and with the help of a Higher Power and if it makes sense, they consider moving forward in spite of fear.

Lori Prokop Courage Tip #3

Often it is past fears programmed into people during childhood that resurface as present day fears. When you feel fear simply ask yourself if this is a fear-based belief from your past. If so, consider healing the fear if it no longer serves you well. This helps to increase courage.

Here is a great story which illustrates courage.

During his time, Maurice Chevalier was one of the greatest stage performers. Suddenly, in mid-career, before an evening stage performance, Maurice felt extreme nausea, dizziness and inability to focus on cues. He stuttered and missed lines.

He tried desperately to recover during his performance this night and for several weeks. His fellow actors attempted to cover up for his faltering. But, Maurice experienced failure, publicly.

Dr. Robert Dubois prescribed rest and long walks to repair the damage to his nervous system, yet his inner pain continued. Fear overtook him. Maurice lost all courage and decided, “I am a beaten man. I am a failure. There is no future for me.”

To combat this, the doctor suggested that Maurice perform for a small, group of local residents. Maurice responded, “I am too terrified. What guarantee do you have that I won’t stutter or forget my lines?”

“There are no guarantees,” said the doctor. “Maurice, you must not be afraid of failing. Fear is never a reason to quit. It is just an excuse. The brave man encounters fear, admits it and goes on despite it.”

Maurice experienced countless episodes of fear before going back on stage for the local folks in that little town. But, he found the courage to go on stage despite his fears. He performed well. Satisfaction and happiness came back to him as he realized, “I knew that I had not conquered fear. I simply had the courage to admit that I felt fear and went on in spite of it. And it worked.”

From that point on Maurice successfully performed for audiences worldwide. “There have been many moments of fear. My doctor was right. There are no guarantees. But being afraid has never made me want to quit.”

Maurice added, “My experience has taught me that if you wait for the perfect moment when all is safe and you have assurances, it may never arrive. Mountains would never be climbed, races never won, dreams never achieved.”

So find the courage to be afraid and honestly admit your fears. With the help of a power greater than yourself, find the courage to overcome fear.

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